“Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18, NLT)

The topic of sex is covered extensively in at least 28 of the 66 books of the Bible. Drawing clear boundaries, guidelines and warnings, the Bible is anything but silent on how we are to conduct ourselves with others sexually. Yet many of us remain silent when it comes to the topic of sex with our children. Is it any wonder then that satan has been allowed to run rampant with our youth, even those raised in the church?

Maybe the topic of sex still makes you feel uncomfortable even as an adult. To that I would suggest you search out healing. Sex is a beautiful gift given to us by God. It is man who distorts and pollutes it, defiling what God created clean.

My husband and I recently came across a podcast called Grounded Union. It is an incredible story of one Christian couple’s path to finding lasting breakthrough and healing from lust and trust issues. A topic that echoes much of our own struggles. As always God uses what satan meant for harm for our good. My husband and I have been set on fire with a new passion to see other couples set free while also giving us a greater desire to have deeper discussions with our children. 

It is most often from our youth that the enemy begins to distort the beauty of intimacy between a man and a woman. That is why it is so crucial that we keep an open dialogue with our children, tearing down the idea of fear being associated with being open and honest about uncomfortable topics. Fear is what the enemy hides in. Those dark corners where we feel like no one will ever accept us or show us grace are exactly where the enemy wants us to stay. We must go the extra mile in our kids’ lives and bring up these important topics, showing them that we are a safe place for them to go when they have questions or concerns.

It is not merely enough to let them know we are here for them to talk to. We must be willing to dig deeper and ask them hard questions such as, “When was the first time you really started to notice the opposite sex and what have you done with that attraction?” Or “Have you ever come across anything that you knew you shouldn’t be looking at?” If they are silent on the subject and only giving you one-word answers, share stories from your own life or others you know who have been snared by the enemy but then found victory. Begin to bring the subject up frequently so that they know you are not going to let it go away. Share every scripture that comes to mind or you read on the topic of sex, educating them on God’s best for their life. Whatever you do, do something. Your children are hungry for the truth, and you possess it. I pray God’s grace over you as you do.