In any healthy marriage, communication is more than just talking — it’s about understanding, connecting, and building trust. One of the most important aspects of this communication is being willing to express our feelings with honesty and humility. God created marriage to reflect His covenant love, and that means both husband and wife are called to walk in truth with one another. Ephesians 4:25 (NIV) reminds us, “Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” If we are called to speak the truth with fellow believers, how much more in the sacred bond of marriage?

Feelings can be difficult to express. It’s easier sometimes to bottle them up or brush them aside than to risk being misunderstood or rejected. But when we hide what’s really going on in our hearts, we create distance. Proverbs 25:11 (NIV) says, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.” When we share what we feel in love and gentleness, our words have the power to heal, to strengthen, and to draw our spouse closer. God uses those moments of vulnerability to deepen intimacy and trust.

For husbands especially, this may mean learning to put words to emotions that don’t come easily. And for wives, it might mean choosing the right time and tone to express what’s on the heart. Either way, communication is a two-way street that requires patience, grace, and the willingness to listen—not just with our ears, but with our hearts. 1 Peter 3:7 calls husbands to be considerate and treat their wives with honor. That starts with being present, attentive, and responsive when feelings are shared.

When couples commit regularly and lovingly expressing their feelings, misunderstandings are reduced, forgiveness flows more freely, and oneness grows stronger. God designed marriage to be a safe place where both husband and wife can be known, loved, and supported. Honest communication is one of the tools He’s given us to build that kind of relationship.

So, let’s not underestimate the importance of a gentle word or a heartfelt confession. Whether it’s sharing a joy, a hurt, a fear, or a need, those conversations are opportunities to reflect the love of Christ. In opening our hearts to each other, we invite God to work in our marriage in powerful ways—and that’s a blessing worth pursuing.