​I love to read the Bible with my husband, especially when we include the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit gives me understanding through thoughts and inspiration and this is part of a romantic moments that I experience as part of my daily life. I look forward for His whispering and His presence right where I am, He always finds me, and He is familiar with all my ways.

As I go through my walk with Him each day, one thing I have learned is about God’s way and how being transformed to be more like Christ Jesus is a life-long journey. In this learning, the Lord teaches me so gently and sweet. He convicts me of my wrongs and takes me off the wrong way and places me back on the right path. The relationship I experience with my Lord reflects the way that Jesus said He and His church would relate. This is also the blueprint for the relationship between a husband and wife. Based on this understanding, my challenge is to understand how I should love my husband like how I love Christ. To be honest, loving a perfect Lord is much easier than loving an imperfect man. However, the requirement that my husband gives himself up to his imperfect wife is no any easier than what I face as well. It is only when we both lay down our own lens, chose to see through the eyes of God, and consider His prospective that we can love each other as husband and wife are called to. That is with the same love that exists between Christ and His church.

One day we read Judges 2:17 (NIV) as part of our Bible reading. It says, “Yet they would not listen to their judges but prostituted themselves to other gods and worshiped them. They quickly turned from the ways of their ancestors, who had been obedient to the LORD's commands.” When I thought about the word ‘prostituted’ in this verse it had a specific impact to me. For those who turn their heart, their mind, and their acts towards other god(s) it is actually equal to the act of prostitution. From God’s prospective and His justice, they had repeatedly abandoned the love God had for them and turned away from Him. Now then, if I should love my Lord our God with all my heart, mind, soul, and strength then how could I not love my husband in the very same way? Do I love him in the way I should? Have I forgotten the very first moment we fell in love with each other? Have I allowed other things to turn my eyes away from him or placed other things above him? Thank you Jesus, He has not come to condemn but to save! The Holy Spirit has shown me how God loves us and how we should love Him, and this applies to the way we are to love our husband as well. I feel so refreshed and encouraged by walking through His living word. By the way, this thought and teaching may seem like a very high level requirement for wives. But if you apply the same understanding on how a husband should love his wife like Christ loves His church, by laying down His life… you will see that much more is required of him. Jesus did not stop, not even on the way to Calvary or when He took His last breath. He still loves us. Therefore, when a husband and wife admit that they are two imperfect people, submit to the perfect Lord, and continues to seek Him, their love will grow to like that of Christ and His church. ​