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Respect in The Marriage

Christopher Brock

December 21, 2024

In a Christian marriage, respect is the cornerstone that holds the foundation of love and commitment together. Rooted in biblical principles, respect transcends simple courtesy; it reflects a deep understanding of each other's value as individuals created in the image of God. Ephesians 5:33 urges, “However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” This verse emphasizes the mutual roles of love and respect, creating a balance where both partners honor God by honoring each other. When respect flourishes, a marriage thrives, becoming a testimony of God’s design for unity.

 

Respect in marriage begins with a recognition of the God-given roles each spouse fulfills. The Bible doesn’t equate respect with subservience, but rather with mutual submission to God and to each other (Ephesians 5:21). For husbands, respect involves valuing their wives as equals, seeking to understand their needs, and loving them sacrificially, as Christ loved the church. For wives, it means appreciating their husbands' efforts to lead, protect, and provide, and offering encouragement rather than criticism. These roles aren’t restrictive; they are pathways to a harmonious partnership that reflects God’s character.

 

Communication is a practical and essential way to demonstrate respect in marriage. James 1:19 advises believers to be “quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” Applying this wisdom, couples who practice active listening create a safe space for honesty and understanding. Respectful communication also means choosing words that build up rather than tear down, especially during disagreements. In a world that often glorifies winning arguments, Christian spouses are called to prioritize reconciliation over being right. This commitment mirrors Christ’s humility and fosters a spirit of unity.

 

Furthermore, respect in marriage is grounded in the principle of forgiveness. No relationship is without its challenges, and hurtful words or actions are inevitable. Colossians 3:13 reminds us to "forgive as the Lord forgave you." Respect acknowledges that both spouses are imperfect and extends grace, just as God extends grace to His children. Through forgiveness, couples not only mend broken trust but also demonstrate God’s redemptive power in their relationship. This act of respect restores intimacy and strengthens the marital bond.

 

Ultimately, respect in marriage is an act of worship. By respecting their spouse, Christian honor God and reflect His love to the world. A marriage rooted in respect becomes a beacon of light, showing others the beauty of God’s design for two people united in love and purpose. As couples continually seek God’s guidance and practice biblical principles, their respect for one another deepens, transforming their union into a living testament of His grace and faithfulness. In the end, respect is not just a duty—it is a gift that keeps a marriage anchored in God’s eternal love.

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