One thing I have learned throughout my life is how to use words sincerely—especially after receiving the understanding that Jesus, my Lord, is the Word!

Another thing I have learned through growing and maturing in Christ is this: perspective. We all have choices that lead us to see things differently—whether through truth or falsehood, through God’s perspective or our own.

I am sure you can see how much perspective matters in life and in all kinds of relationships, especially marriage.

Everyone knows that when you put two people together, even siblings who grew up in the same home, they are still different. As a parent, I can guarantee that! So, no matter how many tests you take, how much marriage counseling you go through, or even if you grew up as neighbors or high school sweethearts—you are still unique individuals with your own personalities and preferences. As the Word says, “You will have trouble in this world.” Challenges will appear in marriage just as they do in every area of life. But challenge does not mean conflict, and differences do not mean incompatibility. If we can have victory in times of trouble, and choose not to sin during temptation, then we can also walk through differences with peace, love, and understanding.

Many times, disagreement comes from our differences—our backgrounds, personalities, values, or perspectives. But when we set the proper perspective in truth and humble ourselves, differences can become a perfect match between two imperfect people. What once seemed incompatible becomes compatible. Challenges turn into opportunities for growth, and the possibility of division caused by conflict begins to disappear.

Don’t allow the enemy to play with your mind. Instead, let the Word be your guard.