Lately, the Holy Spirit has gently brought conviction into my mind about my thoughtlessness towards my husband. I had prayed for my brothers and sisters before they are ready to bring a message of God, and always I consider their workload and affirm their efforts, yet I do not do the same for my husband.

While it is not an excuse, this may be because I am always working beside him. To me, this is our duty which we both carry together. O yes, my husband is a pastor, and he also called to be a teacher at a college, and his gifting is teaching the word of God. His daily routine contains quite a lot of activity related with writing, preparing, and bringing the message of God. And even though I don’t have the title of pastor, my schedule is very similar. Day in and day out, our work is very similar. We talk, we discuss, we make plans together. It seems perfectly matched together, yet I forgot the very foundational thing that should do – serve him as we serve one another for the Lord!

Don’t be mistaken, I serve him as my husband, and I take care of him as well as I take care of the family. I also serve him as his secretary (not a joke) for his daily schedule and help manage his work tasks. Yet I forgot the very foundational thing that should do – serve him as I serve one another as to serve the Lord!

I pray before I go to a meeting, I pray before I have a conversation with others, I pray for the work that needs to be done, I pray for compassion, passion, understanding so I can love others well. I prayed for my husband before we even knew each other. I prayed for him when we began to know each other. I prayed for him when he became my husband. Ten years have passed, we are husband and wife, dad and mom, and are partners and servants for the Kingdom of God together. Yet I forgot the very foundational thing that should do – before serving him, like I serving one another, and serving the Lord, first, pray!

How often do I take the relationship I have with my husband casually? How often have I not given extra thought for the efforts that he pays and the burdens that he has because I am so used to being side by side with him? How often do I get up in the morning and be a secretary to my husband instead of looking into his eyes and hold his hands and simply say, “Let me pray for your day.”

I desire to love my husband as I love the Lord, and I desire to require more of my love for him rather than questioning him or comparing how much he loves me. In order to accomplish this desire, first, pray!