First of all I want to ask a question, should we begin praying as a wife for our husband on the day that we marry them? Let us look at Genesis and see what we can learn from the story of Adam and Eve, “So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.” (2:21-22, NIV) ​

From the very beginning of when God created me in His mind, He already assigned me a husband. And if I believe Him, and I believe that His word is enough, than that means that my husband is somewhere out there even if I don’t know him yet. This has nothing to do with how far apart we may be or how long we have to wait until we meet, but I know the truth, that there is a man out there for me and God has created me to be his helper. This is a man who God will send to me and I am to love him the way as I love the Lord. (Actually this was an exact question God ever asked me, “Will you love him like how you love Me?”)

So, I was started my prayers for my husband even before I knew who he is. I loved him not from the day I met him, but long ago before he had even showed up in my life. I love him enough to remember him in my prayers always, and this was how I prayed, “Abba, I lift my husband to You. If he is sick, heal him. If he is sad, comfort him. If he feels lonely, be with him. And if he lost, show him the way. Abba, I ask that you prepare his heart, show him the truth. I do not want him to love me more than he loves You. Thank you Abba in Jesus name I pray, amen.” And yet even though I know him and we are now married, he is still in my prayers daily. My prayers may be more specific and include his personal situations now, his needs and desires…. but one thing that has not changed is his love and his heart for the Father, and our Lord Jesus. For the best for him, Christ must be His focus, and He must be his desire. And I, I strive to learn and grow and to be mature in the ways in which I can be his good helper. And so I also pray daily, “Abba, help me to be the wife You have made for him.”

Often before I begin to communicate with words, I pray beforehand (Many times I have grieved the Holy Spirit who is living in my heart when I fail to do so…). Whether I share my excitement, my thoughts, or my sadness (especially in the time of anger), prayer, shows me the angles I cannot see, the understanding I could not have, and the gentleness I may have lost in the moment. Prayer, brings me to the green pasture, and I can lay beside the still water. Prayer, opens my eyes to see, my ears to hear, and the heart love (…and to love again).

“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” (Romans 3:23, NIV)

We all fall short, we fail to love our husband as the church loves Christ. And husbands also fail to love their wife like Christ loves the church. But it never means to stop striving to be more like Christ and His church. Prayer is the bridge to connect heart to heart, to realize we can love, and to be strengthened to love like Christ and His church.

My husband and I are now not only praying for each other and our children, we are also praying for our children’s future spouses and families as well. How? We pray that they will never be tempted to get into wrong relationships, and never experience the hurt or harm that come from them. But instead, that in right time and right moment they will each meet the right one. We also pray that they will love the Lord more than anyone else, including their spouses, so that they all can walk into the blessing and purpose God has for marriage. ​