Proverbs 22:6, New Living Translation

“Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.”

In the time of civil war, when Israel and Judah were divided, they each had their own kings. There were kings who continually did evil in the eyes of God, and some who did what was right. Name after name, we learn about lives that followed God and those that did not. There are also names that are still well known today, and others whose stories have been missed by many. Does that mean their story does not matter? Or that it is just not worth sharing? Not at all!

“David’s mighty warriors also included: Asahel, Joab’s brother…” (1 Chronicle 11:26, NLT) “Joab son of Zeruiah was over the army…” (1 Chronicle 18:15, NIV) and “Abishai son of Zeruiah struck down eighteen thousand Edomites in the Valley of Salt.” (1 Chronicle 18:12, NIV)

There are three names: Asahel, Joab, and Abishai. They were mighty warriors and leaders over King David’s army, whom God used to strike down the enemy and bring victory to David’s kingdom. Yet, they were also brothers and sons of Zeruiah—a name you may easily miss. A mother who raised three sons for the king and for his kingdom.

I could not trace the steps of her life in the Bible, as there may not be much content to help us fully understand her story. Did she have struggles raising three boys? Did she face resistance when she brought them to the temple to worship God? Did she experience challenges during their teenage years? Maybe, maybe not… but I do believe this: she raised three sons for the king and for his kingdom. The Lord knows her, and He knows her life. If anyone could be described in the words, “Her children arise and call her blessed…” (Proverbs 31:28, NIV), she is likely one of them.

“Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.” (Proverbs 22:6, NLT). Some translations use the word “train” instead of “direct,” but both carry the meaning of demonstration—leading through action. How could a woman lead what would become an army of men? If you look at Deborah the prophet (Judges 4–5), you may begin to understand how God can work through a woman’s life. Then you can begin to imagine how Zeruiah could raise three warriors for her king.

Today, whether now or in the past, you may have faced struggles in raising your children. At times, you may feel like you are failing the Lord when your children are in difficult situations. Maybe you are still crying out to the Lord for mercy—for their path to be turned, for their souls to be saved… and to one day see them become warriors for King Jesus. I want to direct your mind to recognize both the present and the future in this verse.

There is a present action: “train” and “direct,” with a future response: “they will not leave it” and “when they are old.”

Mother, do not give up. Follow the Gardener who prunes the plants and tends them with love and patience. Be a warrior of God who fights to bring honor to her King.

One day, you will see your children rise for the King you serve—and you will be called blessed.